Plus, the way we deal with rejection often depends on our attachment style, which we learned about in module 2: My Own Best Friend. If someone has a secure attachment style, they may accept rejection more easily. However, if someone has an insecure attachment style, they may have a much harder time dealing with rejection.
Once you understand why it is painful to be rejected, it is important that you take a step back, practice self-care, process your emotions, and speak to a trusted adult or friend. One way to practice self-care is to go back to the things we discussed and learned about in the self-awareness, mindfulness, and breathwork lesson. Continue working on your breathing exercises from the Wim Hof Method, or try this 5-minute breathing meditation on the left.
Also understand that rejection is not your fault. Try not to make it personal and take blame. Rejection has nothing to do with you as a person. Maybe the other person just isn’t looking to date right now, or your dream job isn’t looking to fill the position you desire. Another way to think about it is that the request was denied, but not you.
Perhaps most importantly, do not let rejection stop you! Unfortunately, getting rejected is a normal part of life that everyone has experienced—even famous, successful people like Oprah Winfrey. Therefore, the next time you face rejection, try not to allow yourself to be devastated, instead, ask yourself what you can learn from the experience and what you can do to move forward. Watch the video on the left to get more information on how to deal with rejection.